Decision making comes in large and small proportions; some decisions are easier to make than others, some have a greater impact, and so on. Decision making is something we have been doing for years, and something we will continue to have to do for the rest of our lives; yet decision making can be a struggle – and one of the main reasons we struggle so much is because we are afraid of making the wrong decision.
The problem with resisting decision making, or giving the responsibility over to someone else, is that your path is simply that – your path. No one else can decide those things for you, and when you refuse to decide them for yourself, you begin to lose your confidence and strength.
Instead of fighting decision making, choose to look at it this way: you are being given options and opportunities, and the choices you make between those options decide where you will end up. This is a good thing, not a bad thing! There is not only one path destined for each person. Each person gets to decide what their path will be, and each decision is what leads us there.
Sure, the pressure can get to us. There are a lot of big decisions to be made after all; and many that could affect the people we care about for better or for worse. But once you realize that each decision leads to a different outcome – different, but not necessarily the wrong outcome – decision making becomes easier. You become focused on the result you want, rather than the process. You become able to make decisions based on the outcome you want to see realized, not on the emotions that are affecting your ability to decide.
This also leads to more peace of mind. You don’t second guess every decision you make; you don’t agonize endlessly over what is the right one. You can remind yourself, when things get tough, that you made this decision for a reason – you have a goal in mind, a result, a reward. It’s a far more positive and effective way to make decisions.
The decisions we have to make are our power; they are what write our story – don’t you want to be the writer of your own story?
